Purpose…I think I’m getting closer
I’ve spent considerable time over the last six months thinking about purpose. My purpose. Trying to define it.
My husband, being the retired corporate executive that he is, and whose mind is trained to create strategy, keeps prompting me to stop spending time in the how and to give myself up to the what…traveling without a destination…all you do is continue to travel. I know, I know.
I’m unsure why this is like forcing my mind to give birth, but it is, and I’m still laboring.
First, I simply insisted I wanted to continue using my writing and communication skills to help clients achieve their business goals, and to be able to make a significant financial contribution to my family in the process. I’ve been doing this for several years and although I’ve been successful and enjoy my work, it doesn’t fulfill me.
I started writing a book about the three generations of women in my family who are survivors of child abuse and I realized the pot simmering on the back burner of my mind could provide a purpose if I’d turn off the fire long enough to spoon out a serving.
So of course I decided I wanted to be Oprah. Since I’m a white, married woman with a child and I’m not fond of being in front of a camera, this seemed just a little unlikely.
Knocking it back a notch, I realized what the people closest to me have known all along. I want to use my writing skills and experiences to become a defining voice in the fight against domestic violence and child abuse.
Purpose…I think I’m getting closer.
Good for you … what I have found is that as I age and learn I figure out more about who I want to be and what I want to do … too bad I may be too old to enjoy it by the time I figure it all out!!!
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My concern is not about ‘how’ it’s about ‘why.’ The idea of traveling without a destination really struck me…I’ll be spending considerable time pondering that.
IMO, you are already AT your purpose, you just don’t recognize it (whatever it is).
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@Amy: Stop that, you’ll dissuade me. I thought it was never too late, unless we’re dead, and you’re certainly a long way from that eventuality.
@Violet: I’m glad you’re pondering, it’s such a useful exercise and if you need help, I’d be happy to sublet my husband so he can bug you for awhile and give my brain a break. I don’t think I’m at my purpose yet. I really think defining it is the first step and living it is an ongoing realization. At least that’s what I’ve been contemplating today.
Sounds like you’re pretty darn close.. if not there.. to me.
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Here is to finding purpose.
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I so completely understand what you’re saying – I’m right there with you.
And you know how well we get along? Our husbands would too. Oh, yeah.
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@Hilary: I can feel it.
@WickedStepMom: Thanks. I’ll cheer to that.
@Jan: And the great thing would be that while we chat, and chat, and chat, my husband wouldn’t complain that he can’t get a word in because he’d be too busy enjoying BE’s company. Sounds like an evening made in heaven. I’ll supply the wine, you bring home cooking
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I love that you are continuing to search for your purpose. I do think that as we mature we start to come into our own and realize a whole bunch of stuff about ourselves and start purposely living more true to ourselves. Sometimes we run into fear or other road blocks but we have to beat them down and keep going forward. Enjoy this process of finding your purpose and how that is going to play out in your life. Enjoy the ride!
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@Lori: It really is a lifelong journey to self discovery. Thanks.
Sounds like you are on the right road.
Can you send me the map you used to get there?