Comments on: Ending the Mommy Wars One Glass at a Time

By: Lori

Lori — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 23:28:06 +0000

I have stayed out of the mommy wars myself just because I don’t think it’s a fight that is ever going to be won. I don’t believe in this kind of fighting. I actually believe both sides are right…that they both have truth to be told. I believe each mom has to do what she thinks is right. I have been on both sides of this coin and I can honestly say that regardless of which side I was on at the time, I was doing the best I could and loved my children just the same. I can also honestly say that I wasn’t looking down at the other side…I was too damn busy being a mom to worry about what other mom’s were choosing. I have always been friends with mom’s from both sides…what we have in common is that we love our children, we are women all seeking to connect with other women.

Right now I am a working mom and while I love my job, I miss my kids most of the time, I am gone. I say most of the time because I will not lie, there are days I am happy to leave them at daycare. Yes, I feel guilty a lot of the time, for leaving them, even though they are happy. On the days that they cry and say things like ” I just want to stay home with you.” it breaks my heart. I spend a lot of the day feeling bad, then to come pick them up and they want to keep playing…to find out that they had a most wonderful fun day.

Glad you found these new friends!
Lori´s last blog ..Jumping in Mud Puddles & Jumping off Bridges

By: WickedStepMom

WickedStepMom — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 21:33:14 +0000

That is so rare to find! I am glad that you have all found each other!

Also, I am staying out of the Mom Wars. I have my own stepmom wars to fight.
WickedStepMom´s last blog ..Beautiful Like Me: A Moment in Time

By: Danielle

Danielle — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 13:38:27 +0000

It can be difficult to be compassionate and understanding of choices different than your own. I am so grateful to be in friendships that challenge me and help me grow. And y’all are so much fun too!!!
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By: Jan

Jan — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 13:00:10 +0000

I understand your guilt – I really do – but I also know that you’re making the best of the choices you’ve made in life. Yes, you work, but you work at home, which gives you options that women who go to offices every day don’t have. Aaron’s mom is always there for him, in some way, and that’s what you need to focus on.

Having said that, I’m so glad you’ve met these two wonderful women. I’m also glad to see you “hanging out” over at lipstickdaily.com; Elaine and Kate are two of the most wonderful “working moms” I’ve had the good fortune to meet.

Oh, can you tell I’m back from vacation? I’m doing the “long-winded comment” thing on your blog again…
Jan´s last blog ..And It Was Good…

By: Amy @ Six Flower Mom

Amy @ Six Flower Mom — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:10:59 +0000

What works for one may not work for others … but indeed seeing the different needs of each family/person is huge. I agree so much that it is time to unite!!!
Amy @ Six Flower Mom´s last blog ..Giggle!

By: Tricia

Tricia — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:52:51 +0000

Smalltown Mom: A dual perspective is wonderful and I bet it’s helped in so many ways as you navigate life. Sometimes I know I’m narrow minded. I’m working on it.

By: Smalltown Mom

Smalltown Mom — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:28:16 +0000

I’ve never been a participant in the mommy wars, because I’ve got perspective from both sides. You do the best you can with what you have.

It’s wonderful that you’ve clicked with a congenial group of mothers!
Smalltown Mom´s last blog ..Piano Recital