THAT Friend
Do you have a friend who’s THAT friend; the friend you can sit and talk with for hours, and hours and hours. The one who knew you before you had wrinkles. The one you want your child to think of as family. The one who knows all your history so you never have to explain or put anything into context. The one who knows just how full of crap you really are, but keeps it to him or her self and loves you anyway?
I just spent the weekend with my THAT friend. We’ve been friends for 23+ years, we’ve seen each other through crisis and joy, and after all these years we have a profound respect and love for each other, but we have absolutely nothing in common…
- She’s married to her high school sweetheart. I’m married to husband number two.
- She’s a cat person. I’m a dog person.
- She’s expecting child number six. I can hardly manage one.
- She home-schools. I can’t teach my son to blow his nose or wipe his bum.
- She’s on a mission to live green. I forget to recycle.
- She hates coffee. I think it’s the sixth food group.
- She’s got this awesome Zen kind of thing. I’m spastic, neurotic and should probably be medicated.
Maybe this is why we have so much to talk about.
Thanks for coming to visit, I am so glad that we can do this much more often now!!!! There is no explaining the strange dynamics of friendship — but I would not trade it for the world!! With much love!
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Bravo, you survived 24 hours with NO paper towels — I had some stashed away for you just in case but you were doing so well!!!!
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Friends like that are a necessity.
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I do have friends I grew up with and am still in touch with, but we aren’t at all close anymore. There is one friend I became very close to through work in my early 20’s that I could talk to and do things with until the cows come home, but she’s insanely busy and lives three states away.
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I only have one really good friend like that. And, he usually gives me a kiss goodnight.
Bear and I were best friends first, which is really scary because if something went wrong, I would have lost my best friend too. But, it did all work out for us.
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Yup, I totally get that post…I have a friendship exactly like that! Except that SHE is married to MY high school sweetheart! LOL
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Sadly no. I wish I did. We went on such different paths, so many times. We’re still friends, but we don’t have that connection that we used to. McHusband is that for me now.
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I’ve had that friend since I was six, so that makes it cough cough 40+ years. Only problem — she lives in Germany.
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I overuse paper towels and can’t teach my kid to wipe his bum either! Do you think there are support groups for that?
I’ve always wanted one of those friends, but never seem to have had the time to keep them. I have a couple of really good girlfriends now, though, and they don’t care much for talking on the phone and hanging out either. So it’s a perfect match!
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Yes! I just saw ‘that friend’ last Thursday. We don’t see each other very often, but when we do there’s no need to ‘catch up’ – we just continue conversations where we left off. Years ago. I laughed when I read this, because I could just see her saying, ‘Still full of crap?’ Me: ‘Yup.’
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That’s awesome. I do have a girlfriend who I cannot remember life without – literally! We have known each other since kindergarten. It’s awesome to have a friend like that, isn’t it?
Friends like that are important. They make life a window, rather than a mirror.
Yep, indeed I do have THAT friend. There was a time when I was a bit down on the fact I didn’t have gobs of friends like others seemed to. I made a comment along those lines to my Grandma once. She said many who appear to have gobs go through life without ever experiencing the true friendship you’ve found with the one. You know, she’s probably right. I wouldn’t trade 20 kinda-sorta friends for the one true THAT friend I have.
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I DID have a friend like that until she couldn’t deal with the new me when I was going through my daily struggles with infertility and I couldn’t deal with the new me either or with her not trying to sensitive towards what I was going through. And we’re in different countries now. It hurts but I’m trying to move on. I still do miss those times. Maybe some day we’ll talk again.
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Oh my, I DO have one of those friends. You are too funny because I think you explained our relationship…except she and I are both kinda spastic, which makes things interesting.
I miss THAT girl and don’t get to see her enough.
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Sounds like a fun friendship! I have friends like that and love spending time with them too!
Take care – Kellan
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I am fortunate to have more than one of those kinds of friends.
First and foremost, there is Beloved; he may not have known me before I had wrinkles (we didn’t meet until we were in our late 30s), but he knows me better than anyone ever has, or probably ever will.
The other two are friends from high school, and while we have grown in different directions, developed our own views and opinions, and live far away from each other now, we’re still incredibly close. We may not talk for weeks, but then one of us will call or email and it’s like we last saw each other yesterday.
she hates coffee?????????????
My old pal Denis is the greatest, for 25 plus years. But he has some odd habits and tastes, like he thinks SUNSCREEN is a vicious gov’t plot…..
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I don’t have ENOUGH of friends like that, but yeah, the ones I do have are totally priceless.
And for the record, I have a few friends who also LOVE (LOVE) to talk about themselves for hours. OY.
Ok, I digress.
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Oh yes, I have that friend for over 30 years. We didn’t like each other when we first met.. really I just didn’t like her boyfriend. But we hung with the same group.. all of whom are out of our picture.. including the boyfriend. We hit it off the first time we spent time away from the group and we’ve not stopped chattering ever since. We get together several times a year and our steps immediately fall into perfect rhythm every time. Those kinds of friendships are essential.
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I am very fortunate – I’d have to say just about everyone I call a close friend fits this category. Some of them are polar opposites from me, some I agree with on most every issue.I don’t know what I’d do without them, they are indeed priceless
you are very very fortunate!
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