Comments on: Bare Naked Part I … My Journey into Violence http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=my-journey-into-violence Life is too short to be quiet Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:53:56 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Archie http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-15623 Archie Wed, 27 Oct 2010 05:14:31 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-15623 Thanks for sharing. I've been through a similar journey and now understand more and more about how I ended up where I was. In my case, the emotional abuse was two way, and it sounds like it was in yours too. This is not to blame your ex or you: simply to recognise that, at the time, you were both turning to the best tools you had available for dealing with anxiety, stress and fear. Anger is a secondary emotion. The trick is to notice the primary one that comes just before it and find better ways to deal with it. You were clearly vulnerable financially, socially, emotionally & personally from the start. The lesson I have learnt is not to ignore the other issues affecting my life, say something about it and do something about it. Take responsibility in other words, reduce the amount of angst and fear in your life and enjoy life more as a result. Good luck on your journey: live, love, learn Thanks for sharing. I’ve been through a similar journey and now understand more and more about how I ended up where I was. In my case, the emotional abuse was two way, and it sounds like it was in yours too. This is not to blame your ex or you: simply to recognise that, at the time, you were both turning to the best tools you had available for dealing with anxiety, stress and fear.

Anger is a secondary emotion. The trick is to notice the primary one that comes just before it and find better ways to deal with it. You were clearly vulnerable financially, socially, emotionally & personally from the start. The lesson I have learnt is not to ignore the other issues affecting my life, say something about it and do something about it. Take responsibility in other words, reduce the amount of angst and fear in your life and enjoy life more as a result.

Good luck on your journey: live, love, learn

]]> By: Debbie@Like a Rose http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-6407 Debbie@Like a Rose Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:35:02 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-6407 Thanks for your directness and honesty. I got here via Violence Unsilenced, via Mojo at Why what Have You Heard. I'll be includding a link to you in a post for next Tuesday 6/16/2009. <abbr><em>Debbie@Like a Roses last blog post..<a href="http://likearose-deb.blogspot.com/2009/06/wordless-wednesday-shuttin-detroit-down.html" rel="nofollow">Wordless Wednesday - Shuttin' Detroit Down</a></em></abbr> Thanks for your directness and honesty. I got here via Violence Unsilenced, via Mojo at Why what Have You Heard. I’ll be includding a link to you in a post for next Tuesday 6/16/2009.

Debbie@Like a Roses last blog post..Wordless Wednesday – Shuttin’ Detroit Down

]]> By: What the Heck is It? : Shout http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-1085 What the Heck is It? : Shout Thu, 04 Sep 2008 10:58:39 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-1085 [...] personal insanity and inability to focus—from “kids pooping in the pool” to, “I can’t stop being violent to my wife“. The second reference reaffirms my belief in the power of words, shared stories and [...] [...] personal insanity and inability to focus—from “kids pooping in the pool” to, “I can’t stop being violent to my wife“. The second reference reaffirms my belief in the power of words, shared stories and [...]

]]> By: One Man’s Story of Being an Abuser « Because It Matters http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-497 One Man’s Story of Being an Abuser « Because It Matters Mon, 30 Jun 2008 19:15:11 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-497 [...] One Man’s Story of Being an Abuser Posted on June 27, 2008 by dannimoss This is a really good look at abuse from a perpetrator’s perspective. It is a true story and I’ve copied a lot of it here. I shortened it a little, so if you want to, you can read the whole thing at ShoutDaily.com. [...] [...] One Man’s Story of Being an Abuser Posted on June 27, 2008 by dannimoss This is a really good look at abuse from a perpetrator’s perspective. It is a true story and I’ve copied a lot of it here. I shortened it a little, so if you want to, you can read the whole thing at ShoutDaily.com. [...]

]]> By: stepping over the junk http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-467 stepping over the junk Wed, 25 Jun 2008 23:31:25 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-467 Wow. All I can say is WOW. stepping over the junks last blog post..<a href="http://steppingoverthejunk.wordpress.com/2008/06/25/looking-back-at-red-flags/" rel="nofollow">Looking back at red flags</a> Wow. All I can say is WOW.

stepping over the junks last blog post..Looking back at red flags

]]> By: Tricia http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-462 Tricia Wed, 25 Jun 2008 10:28:12 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-462 Jen: Thank you for your courage. I was also involved in an abusive relationship and I think it's so important for those of us who were able to make it out to continue speaking up and reaching out. I believe that unless we provide resources to abusers, they will perpetuate the cycle and will abuse multiple partners. Once abuse has become a behavior it can only be stopped with specific, targeted help, and unfortunately many counselors or therapists are not equipped to recognize and help. That's why organizations like MSV are critical. We have to stop the abuse where it starts. Jen: Thank you for your courage. I was also involved in an abusive relationship and I think it’s so important for those of us who were able to make it out to continue speaking up and reaching out. I believe that unless we provide resources to abusers, they will perpetuate the cycle and will abuse multiple partners. Once abuse has become a behavior it can only be stopped with specific, targeted help, and unfortunately many counselors or therapists are not equipped to recognize and help. That’s why organizations like MSV are critical. We have to stop the abuse where it starts.

]]> By: Jen http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-458 Jen Tue, 24 Jun 2008 17:48:58 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-458 As a woman who survived an emotional and physically abusive relationship, thank you. Jens last blog post..<a href="http://mymommyhood.blogspot.com/2008/06/these-are-my-confessions.html" rel="nofollow">These are my confessions</a> As a woman who survived an emotional and physically abusive relationship, thank you.

Jens last blog post..These are my confessions

]]> By: WickedStepMom http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-448 WickedStepMom Mon, 23 Jun 2008 13:55:53 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-448 Thank you for sharing. I am looking forward to reading the next articles. WickedStepMoms last blog post..<a href="http://lifeandtimesofawickedstepmom.wordpress.com/2008/06/19/signs-signs-everwhere-theres-signs/" rel="nofollow">Signs, Signs, Everwhere there’s signs!</a> Thank you for sharing. I am looking forward to reading the next articles.

WickedStepMoms last blog post..Signs, Signs, Everwhere there’s signs!

]]> By: Beth Fehlbaum http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-447 Beth Fehlbaum Mon, 23 Jun 2008 13:33:37 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-447 Anything that drags domestic abuse of all kinds from where it hides in the shadows is most likely a positive thing. Beth Fehlbaum, author Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse http://courageintpatience.blogspot.com http://www.kunati.com/courage-in-patience Chapter 1 is online! beth@bethfehlbaum.com Beth Fehlbaums last blog post..<a href="http://courageinpatience.blogspot.com/2008/01/courage-in-patience-sold-to-kunati-for.html" rel="nofollow">Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse, releases Sept. 1, 2008!</a> Anything that drags domestic abuse of all kinds from where it hides in the shadows is most likely a positive thing.

Beth Fehlbaum, author
Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse
http://courageintpatience.blogspot.com
http://www.kunati.com/courage-in-patience
Chapter 1 is online!
beth@bethfehlbaum.com

Beth Fehlbaums last blog post..Courage in Patience, a story of hope for those who have endured abuse, releases Sept. 1, 2008!

]]> By: Amy http://www.shoutdaily.com/2008/06/my-journey-into-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-445 Amy Mon, 23 Jun 2008 12:04:51 +0000 http://www.shoutdaily.com/?p=345#comment-445 Thank you for this wonderful article. It is good to see a new perspective on violence, and one filled with hope that it can get better! Speaking about violence can be difficult, thanks for being brave! I am looking forward for the continued story. Amys last blog post..<a href="http://fiveflowermom.blogspot.com/2008/06/summer-csa-yum.html" rel="nofollow">Summer CSA - YUM!</a> Thank you for this wonderful article. It is good to see a new perspective on violence, and one filled with hope that it can get better! Speaking about violence can be difficult, thanks for being brave! I am looking forward for the continued story.

Amys last blog post..Summer CSA – YUM!

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